Conscious Parenting uses ordinary, moment-by-moment engagement with our children to foster authentic connection.
What really stands out to me in this beautifully written book by Dr. Shefali Tsabary, is that parenting is really about moment-to-moment connections.
Dr. Tsabary shows us that, “It’s so easy to forget that toddlerhood is all about open spaces and empty boxes- about unleashed imagination and unencumbered play. In our hurry to see our children, walk, talk, and potty train themselves, we miss the delight of staying in the moment.”
When I read this quote- one cold and rainy day, nestled in a blanket in my office- I had to re-read it a few times. It was one of those moments that you feel that the Writer wrote something just for you. I felt as though she had just witnessed one of my parenting ‘bad habits’. Like the time I overlooked joining my daughter in her imaginary game of horse stable owner, because I needed to put away the laundry.
Yes. The laundry needed to be put away. But could I have spared a moment to connect? Perhaps that tiny moment of connection would have been enough for me to then say “lets put away this laundry together so we can play more together”.
Dr. Tsabary reminds us that “when our children see us come down to their level, it equalizes the dynamic between us, allowing them to connect to us in a playful, nonthreatening manner.”
Whether we want to call it conscious-parenting or mindful-parenting, in today’s busy and complex world we are being called as parents to:
- own our ‘stuff’ and transform our ‘bad habits’;
- become aware of what is unfolding in front of us moment to moment;
- shedding our expectations that our children are anything but children, who need guidance, limits, and love.
And this is one book on my book shelf that helps to show me- and the families I support- how.
I give this book:
And would highly recommend it to any parent who is looking for an easy to read book, that is filled with inspirational ideas on how to become a more conscious parent.