Have you begun to build your parenting team or tribe or network?
Who are the people who will support you along this journey? Where will you go for help?
Who will you ask those hard questions to knowing you can trust their answers?
Maybe you have a caregiving partner, but talking about the kids, routines, strategies, philosophies on discipline or rewards is just not easy conversation. That is okay. Because we can be creative about our definitions of parenting partners.
(And you- dear reader- are so very important to our village)
We recognize that we need our village’s insight, experiences & ideas. My tribe at Counting Butterflies has taken a firm stance that in order to serve our village, we need to partner with parents in meaningful ways.
So how do you build your team/tribe/village/partnerships?
Here is what really helped me:
- Be brave enough to invite people in! Be open to what others have to offer.
- No judging (yourself or any other moms!). We are all just trying the very best we can, with what we have been given.
- Ask for help, look for help and be open to receiving help. (You know if another mom asked you for help, you’d be there – right? Then why are you so reluctant…)
- Be open to who ‘your people’ are- your child’s teacher, a child’s new friends parent, a coach, an after-school care provider, a neighbour with grown kids- you never know who will add something to your village.
Although online articles, groups, chat rooms/sites, blogs and Pinterest can be helpful – there’s no substitute for the exchange of energy between two real-live moms as they talk honestly about parenting.
Conversations between real moms nourish us; they shape us, encourage us, and give us confidence to handle life’s challenges and hurdles.
I’m so grateful to my ridiculously inspiring and light-hearted girlfriends, my colleagues, my Mompreneur tribe, my family, other hockey/dance moms, my in-laws, my neighbours and my ever-changing group of ‘kids friends parents’. My village informs my role as a mom.
And It takes ALL of them to create the balance I need to nurture my children.
So ask yourself: Who’s in your parenting village? Who can you reach-out to?
And always remember, it is quality- not quantity- when it comes to your village.
That heartwarming feeling of truly connecting with another mom along my journey is what keeps me going, keeps me smiling and keeps me hopeful!