What is your holiday mindset?
Did you know you could choose your mindset – in fact, each day you are given an opportunity to choose your mindset.
“Don’t just show up, be present. Breathe deeply, and make today count” unknown author
There’s an inherent hustle to the month of December. There’s a subtle (and sometimes NOT so subtle) pressure to holiday preparations that can wiggle its way into our mindset, and the way we approach our holidays.
However you choose to celebrate this month, there are traditions, celebrations, gatherings, gifts, decorations and expectations embedded into our day-to-day.
Our children are all learning about mindset in school. It’s a very frequent topic of conversation in our house. My kiddos are quite good at ‘catching us’ when we make fixed mindset statements – usually involving the words ‘can’t – don’t or won’t’ – along with a heap of negativity & discouragement.
A growth mindset, the lighter more hopeful counterpart to the fixed mindset, allows space for growth and possibility – for trying new things and discovering new interests. My 9yr old daughter explained the importance of the word yet when teaching me her growth mindset reminders, “I can’t do a back walkover yet, I don’t like eating chili yet, I won’t…. yet!”
In our challenge to foster hope and grow resilience & confidence in our children, the power of mindset challenges me daily.
Each morning we are presented with a new opportunity to breathe deeply & choose how we approach our day, our interactions, our thoughts (toward our self & others), and our mindset.
- the monotony of making lunches can envelope me in an instant, OR I can breathe, smile & be grateful that my job allows me to be home in the morning spending time with my children, and making lunches
- another red light can incite a groan OR, it can be a chance to slow down, look around & smile at families walking by and the decorations adorning our neighborhood
- a sibling squabble (ok, a fight!) can cause me to escalate and join in their disagreement, OR I can sit back and listen to their personalities & their relationship unfolding before me
- this holiday season we can get swallowed up into the vortex of want – the shadows of envy – the valleys of comparisons & the depths of despair. OR, we can pause & breathe deeply. We can look around and allow our hearts to be warmed instantly by ALL that we have, ALL who surround us and ALL there is to be grateful for in our lives.
Many, our home included, struggle with reminders of loss & sadness around the holidays for those that are not with us this year – it hurts my heart and I sometimes lose myself in thought of what could have/should have been… there are often tears, yet each year the energy of my children & their excitement, the baking & the countless Christmas movies and those long deep breaths of gratitude for what is NOW – draw me back to THIS moment, this season to celebrate with friends, with family and to give thanks and offer love to our community.
Our challenge, during the holiday season & each day, is not to get stuck in the shadows, the sadness or the fixed mindset of what is lacking. My challenge, alongside yours, is to find what lightens my heart, brings a smile to my face & causes me to experience the joy, the plenty and the growth offered to each of us in this holiday season.